People should not have to justify their actions before they are loved for who they are. Divorce has released me spiritually, mentally and emotionally to become the person God created me to be.
I have been able to move on to a life that is fuller, happier and more creative.
Non-divorced Catholics need to be careful of assumptions, to discard any trace of judgment toward the divorced.
Since I have “been there, done that” when it comes to being judgmental, I can address this issue personally.
I had some initial worries about my spiritual status when I began the process, but God quickly reassured and comforted me as I went through and beyond my divorce.
As a divorced Catholic, I am happy to hear about the Church’s new vigilance. Annulling past marriages and saying, in effect, “We hope you do better next time,” is hardly adequate.
” as though I would smack my head and say, “Gee, why didn’t I think of that? People have commented, “But you seemed like such a happy couple.” That’s what we wanted you to think; that’s what we wanted to believe.
The bottom line is this: Such questions and comments just hurt, and they are unfair.
Many of us, looking back, realize that God was simply not a part of our decision to marry. My intended was heading to a war zone for a year, and friends and family counseled me to wait. We have all attended enough weddings to recall what the priest or deacon always asks a couple at the beginning of the marriage ceremony: “Do you come here freely and without reservation?
In my case, I never asked God, never gave God the chance to stop my headlong (and headstrong) determination to get married. ” For most of us divorced Catholics, the answer to that question, if we had been truthful, was “no.” How can anyone claim that a particular marriage was “joined by God” if that was not the intention of the parties getting married?
When a marriage fails, no amount of effort, enabling or denial will save it.