At the least they should know if you are looking for a new relationship.
“Single parents are certainly not second-class citizens in the world of dating,” affirms Schiller. Admittedly, a certain amount of discretion is advisable …
In general, if you have split relatively recently from you ex, then you need to tread still more carefully with your children.
There is a greater risk that they will come out with something like: “But I’ve already got a mum/a dad. ” Younger children tend to view any changes in their world as somewhat threatening, so they will often fear that their parent will have less time for them or that they will become less central to your existence.
At the very latest this should be when you feel that a durable relationship is in view.
If your new boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t seem especially interested in getting to know your children better, then don’t rush things. Experts recommend staging the first meeting on neutral ground - say at a sports centre or a museum - so that no-one feels like an intruder.
Younger mothers in particular tend to feel they have to resign themselves to a single state.