Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important.You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.Many guys just don’t know how to deal with a child that isn’t theirs and it becomes immediately evident to the child, even when the mom is disillusioned into thinking that the guy is perfect.Ask your Teen: If you have a teenager it is very important that you get their approval after an introduction or two is made with your potential lover. No emails, no texts, no late night dial and hang-ups, no drive-by’s, no contacting by proxy (via friends or family), no Facebook or Favorite Place stalking, no leaving notes on his/her car or apartment door, no sending letters……NO NOTHING. It will be hard because after a break-up you want closure.
If I am ever tempted to do anything listed from 1-10, I will call my therapist or a friend immediately and talk about it.
I must accept responsibility for maintaining No Contact.
I will stop expecting them to understand or ‘get it.’21.
I will not allow him/her or myself an excuse to resume contact.
(If you adopted a pet while you were together, just let him/her have the dog, cat, ferret, etc.)20.
Alternatively, even if I have to have my best friend lock me in my apartment/house, I will not go to places I know he/she is likely to be. (Or do my best to get all of my belongings out of their place at once).