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We can 'abandon' ourselves in many areas: emotional (judging or ignoring our feelings), financial (spending irresponsibly), organizational (being late or messy), physical (eating badly, not exercising), relational (creating conflict in a relationship), or spiritual (depending too much on your partner for love).
When you decide to learn to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself, you will discover how to create a loving relationship with your partner."— Margaret Paul, Ph.
For example: 'I get annoyed when I see dishes in the living room.
But what does it honestly take to make a modern romance work?
Another secret for a long marriage: partners need to commit to making it work, no matter what.
The only thing that can break up a relationship are the partners themselves."— Kelly Campbell, Ph.
Personal experience proves it too: From our eighth-grade romance to our most recent breakup drama, "love isn't easy" is a life lesson we know all too well.
No matter your status—single, dating, engaged, or married—relationships take work.
Hang out with girlfriends until late in the evening, take a weekend trip to visit family, or just spend time 'doing you' for a while. D., assistant professor of communication, Texas State University"'You are my everything' is a lousy pop-song lyric and an even worse relationship plan. Create relationships outside The Relationship, or The Relationship isn't going to work anymore."— Matt Lundquist, LCSW, couples therapist"Sex isn't just about orgasms.