I could have continued on that unhappy road but I found a person who loves and respects me and has been my best friend since 1986, and my spouse since last year.
She just happens to be female instead of male." Dr.
It's as if straight people are saying we just can't imagine how someone who's been in a heterosexual relationship could possibly prefer a same-sex one.
It must be that she has not found the "right" man to "keep" her straight.
It was very hard on me for a long time because I did not want to disappoint her and I know her inability to love this part of me affected my ability to come out earlier in life. I love being different and don't want to be like everyone else.
Unfortunately, she never accepted my lesbian identity but I finally moved past needing her approval and started living my life. Life was way harder when I was trying to be straight.
This may be the case with women who are only sexually attracted to women, but I am attracted to both men and women." Lisa D.
says people assume, because she was married to a man, that she must be bisexual.
I tried to act straight and dated men without any success.
Lauren Costine, Psychologist, LGBTQ Activist, and author of Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things Go Wrong, shares her journey: "Once I had worked on my internalized LGBTQ phobias, I finally felt good enough about myself to be my authentic self.
I stopped worrying about what anyone thought about my identity and who I loved and had sex with--especially my mother, who made it very clear she did not want me to be a lesbian.
SEXUALITY IS COMPLICATED As with so many things, many believe that sexuality is not black and white, but that its many variations exist on a spectrum.
The women I interviewed ask us not to make assumptions about how they define their sexuality and not to categorize them based on our lack of understanding.
Amy Dulaney, whose Catholic upbringing did not allow her to contemplate her attraction to women, left her husband after 10 years.