If, on the other hand, there is an intuitive sense you get but that you just can’t quite put your finger on, that there is not enough here for either of you to justify such a rapid spark based on very little information or interaction, then it may very well be “too fast”.For those who think that Christian dating rules should eschew all social media as a means of authentic connection, think again.And, yet, when you’re just getting to know each other or be in that new “boyfriend-girl” stage, it can get tricky trying to know just how far a boyfriend can or should lead.So a good rule of thumb is to use marriage as a yardstick: while a boyfriend should not “lead” his girlfriend or potential partner to the level of a husband and wife — which is to say he is not yet charged by God to lead, cover, provide and protect — he can absolutely encourage her already present devotion and natural gifts.This is friendship that starts off between a man and a woman as a shared collection of interests, invitations to community and fellowship events or through discipleships.It is during these moments that you can observe one’s godliness and involvement of faith.It is this willingness to grow in one’s faith, either through discipleship or community involvement, that you can truly get a sense of their belief.The best piece of Christian dating advice is this: “too fast” is only what you make of it.
Yet even Christian singles worry about being physically attracted to their potential partners when all the other “pieces” of godliness and faith in Scripture.
The fact is that Christian singles who are marriage-minded and commitment-focused need more than Christian dating advice when it comes to the season of their lives where a potential mate comes along.
They would flourish, instead, with guidelines and Christian dating rules that they can recognize within Scripture and bring along into the rest of their lives.
And so, like the judgement of a person's “Godliness”, look for quality and not a box to check.
When you’re trying to assess “speed” of a relationship and how it’s progressing, you want to look within yourself (and behind their actions as well) for a sense of what is driving the heightened passion and regard. Is there truly a connection or is the relationship outpacing what you know about them or they know about you?
The fact is the quality of “godliness” is going to be attractive and sexy to one who is truly God-loving because that value matters over all others — and thus beautifies your potential partner.