Dating for heavy people

More specifically, this myth assumes that all fat men are inherently less attractive to all people than any partner they could ever have.That partner is only using fat men to appear more attractive by comparison.So we have another double-edged myth on our hands: fat men can be warm/cuddly, but they can never be seen as sexual beings, let alone being seen as possibly “good” at sex.While many fat men are indeed “warm and cuddly,” it’s inherently harmful to fat men as human beings to see this as their only positive trait.This is one of those “positive stereotypes” many folks who shy away from “political correctness” try to use in their blatant bigotry, similar to “all Asians are smart” or “all gay men are fashionable and confident.” The issue with “positive stereotypes” is the fact that they automatically alienate anyone who doesn’t fit in with those stereotypes or, even worse, anyone who wants to be seen as more than just what society wills upon them.Fat men are stereotyped as being warm and cuddly, but not much else on the “positive” side of stereotyping.I’ll keep repeating the point, even if I sound like a broken record: some people actually find fat men attractive!

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On the episode of the daytime game show she recorded, host and comedian Steve Harvey asks the contestants to answer a rather loaded statement: “Name a reason a woman might decide to be with a chubby [or fat] man.” This, as one might imagine, ends up being a rather humorous round for the contestants, Steve Harvey, and the audience.With this myth, we have an example of how people attempt to take the agency away from fat people, and really people in general.The assumption behind this myth is twofold, where people will only be attracted to or seek relationships with a) people who look like them, or b) people who society deems as attractive. What is most directly shown in this survey answer is the idea that fat people will only be able to have relationships with other fat people, whether it’s because they only find other fat people attractive or because that’s all they can get, in the most brutal of terms.This blatant objectification of fat men’s bodies is the result of what the above myths have done to remove any other positive aspects of what we think of when we look at fat men.The only redeeming quality our culture puts forth for fat men—if they aren’t rich or powerful, and not even 100% of the time—is that they’re like fluffy teddy bears as opposed to, you know, human beings with other desires.The fact that this myth is the most popular of the 6 given answers—34 of the 100 people originally surveyed gave this or a similar answer—is troubling in and of itself.

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