She also has a personal rule of waiting a year before introducing someone she’s dating to her child, because she believes children are impressionable and she wants to avoid hurting her son as much as possible.Kevin, a single man with no children, says he has no problem dating women with children and has had various experiences.Single mothers, particularly in Black communities, have been viewed both as strong heroines who are the backbones of their families as well as vicious destroyers of the traditional family structure.
She acknowledges that there’s always the fear a man won’t be welcoming when she tells him she has a child, but that just lets her know she needs to keep it moving.
With one man, she spent six “temporary months” dating him before deciding he wouldn’t meet her children.
She wasn’t crazy about him herself, so she knew he’d never meet her kids.
Sometimes people just want to have fun adult time away from their children without feeling pressure to be anything more.
When dating someone with children, don’t assume there is drama with the other parent or that you’ll be expected to play a parental role; everyone’s different.
Kevin says that, for the most part, he’s had good experiences dating women with children.