“It’s actually a running joke by now,” he says of the people he and his friends meet on dating apps.“They turn out to be tourists who, of course, aren’t sticking around for very long.” He prefers the New York dating scene, where anything can happen: “You still feel like you’ll meet someone by chance on the subway or in a museum in New York.” Betsy Cox, a divorce concierge on the Upper East Side, splits her time between New York City and London, where she lived for four years and met the man who proposed to her. “Depending on your age, if you’re single and young, you’re definitely going to meet guys of your age group in New York City,” says Cox, 50.“More often than not, people are usually set up,” says the 28-year-old medical student.“Filipinos love matchmaking.” And as for just going out for a good time, Fojas has learned, “In the Philippines, it’s either you’re someone’s significant other or you’re not. I’ve yet to encounter someone [who goes] on dates with multiple people,” she adds.She also experienced some romances that began on the dance floor.
But in Germany, it’s more relaxed: You might join up with him and friends and have real activities and experiences.” Bernd Fischer, a 25-year-old who lived in Morningside Heights and now works in publishing in Cape Town, says the South African city can be cliquey, “So for those of us who aren’t into dating apps, it’s difficult to meet new people and it can often feel like there aren’t even any new people to meet,” he says.The 32-year-old matchmaker from the Upper West Side lived in Athens for five years until 2008 and returns there often.“You meet through friends, maybe stay [after friends leave] longer, kiss, and then next day, you ask the person out,” she says.“It’s like testing the waters — and if you’re a good dancer it’s an attractive quality.” She also loved that the night really could end with dancing, instead of being expected to take things to the bedroom: “Whether you have sex or don’t doesn’t seem to affect the relationship” she says.“It’s not a stigma if you wait a few dates.” Jonathan, who moved to Jakarta, Indonesia after living in the East Village in 2013, says moving to a place that was predominantly Muslim made for some challenging cultural differences in dating.“In NYC there’s a bigger focus on pedigree,” says Aussie Adam Lewkovitz, who moved to New York City from Sydney in 2009. In Sydney, there’s more focus on lifestyle, and work is a means to support what you want to do.” The 34-year-old tech-product manager now lives in Williamsburg, where he says the terms of dating are not as clear as in his native land.