Jim: I had a friend, retired from the military, who would make sure that his shotgun was prominently displayed nearby whenever a suitor came calling on his daughter. But you could use more subtle means to convey the same message: that while your daughter still lives under your roof, she is primarily your responsibility and you expect her to be treated with the utmost care and respect.While she was getting ready, he'd sit each guy down on the couch and say something along the lines of, "My daughter is more important to me than anything. I expect you to treat her with the utmost respect, or you will answer to me." One guy jumped off the couch and said, "I'm sorry, sir, but I don't want to run the risk of letting you down! As for other questions, the tried-and-true "What are your intentions with my daughter? Try to find out what his interests are, how he's doing in school, and what his own family is like.James Dobson was, and continues to be, a runaway hit, selling more than 2 million copies to date. Dobson presents his highly anticipated companion book: Bringing Up Girls. Dobson’s trademark down-to-earth approach, B2011 Retailers Choice Award winner!Bringing Up Boys by parenting expert and best-selling author Dr.I don't mean to imply I have a corner on God's truth, but I do draw the ideas and principles from that foundation.It's amazing that if you go back 40 years, when I wrote was published in 1970 in the midst of the Vietnam War and a culture of rebellion."Bringing Up Girls" is primarily a social commentary on the decadence of modern society, the ill effects of feminism, and the challenges facing girls.
Like you'd know anything about it." Parents are producing strong-willed children, Dobson says, and he wants parents to assume responsibility.The book was written in that context, but the principles of child rearing have not changed.Has the rise of feminism made it harder for parents to bring up girls? Girls today are growing up too fast; the influences of the entertainment industry have changed.If he continues to pursue your daughter, invite him to spend more time with your family.That will better enable you to evaluate whether or not he's a worthy suitor. Juli Slattery is a licensed psychologist, co-host of Focus on the Family, author of several books, and a wife and mother of three. We want her to know this is about love, not control, and that we want to help protect her from sexual temptation. I'd approach this situation by normalizing your daughter's desire to "date." A lot of her friends are probably "dating," and having a boyfriend may be a big aspect of popularity.