A widowed partner who comes from a mutually satisfying relationship tends to take longer to find love.
That person knows what it takes to sustain fulfillment and growth.
He still grieves for her at times when he’s reminded of her, but he is moving on with his life.
I’m nervous about getting involved with him too soon.
Consequently, the addition of the widowed parent means that the House Rules need to be adjusted to the new circumstances, especially emotional issues.
Usually, when a widowed parent moves into the adult child’s home, the current or dormant problems in the parent-child relationship get activated.
Often, the widowed parent moves in with the extended family because he or she requires assistance with living.
If the new love is very different in personality from the deceased spouse, the adult children might have especial difficulties accepting the new person.
These children often have a set view of the parent’s marriage, and seeing a very different kind of love choice can disrupt their beliefs about men, women, love and marriage.
Losing a spouse is difficult enough, and when grown children cannot accept parental dating and new love, the surviving spouse feels as though he or she is losing the entire family.
The bad news is that the surviving spouse should heed the family’s warnings.
Sound advice for the surviving partner includes: Q.