As parents move beyond divorce and start thinking about the prospect of finding new relationships, there is much to take into account.Here are some common questions we are asked and the advice we suggest.A: Take your time and get to know your new partner very well before introducing them to your child of any age.Children are emotionally vulnerable when new adults enter their lives, especially when they’re dating Mom or Dad.Both you — and your children — will benefit from your thoughtfulness in this regard.Q: How long should you wait before introducing your “dates” to your children?Q: Is it OK to date when you’re separated, or should you wait until you are legally divorced?A: It’s always better to take some time to prepare yourself before starting to date, legally divorced or not.
Wait until you know this is a very special friend worthy of their attention. Make sure you remind your children that no one will ever replace their real” Mom or Dad (unless you are justified in doing so).Seven years since his divorce, Singer has only introduced his now 14-year-old son to two women, neither of whom he ended up marrying.“In both cases, (I introduced him only) when I was sure that I was going to maintain a long-term relationship,” Singer says.Did you learn the lessons you need to learn so you don’t repeat past mistakes?Dating won’t resolve anger, conflicts, and insecurities, so do the inner work first before getting out into the dating world, regardless of how long it takes. Two-plus years out of a bad marriage, I’m in no rush to find husband No. When I do take that step, I want to be certain it’s a lifelong, healthy relationship that’s good for me and good for my three kids.