“One of the main things [about these questions] is self-disclosure. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.30.
Revealing things about yourself, and going both ways, and it has to be gradual,” Dr Aron says.
Recently I saw this article on The New York Times called To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.
It is a super interesting article that talks about how over 20 years ago psychologist Arthur Aron got two strangers to fall in love.
The questions start out broad and then one-by-one get increasingly more intimate.
That way it keeps me open-minded and he’s allowed to change, grow, evolve, and maybe even surprise me sometimes.
:) Use these questions in conjunction with a date night (24 Date Night Ideas for or Less) or when you’re just emptying out the dishwasher together.
Arthur Aron, professor of psychology at the State University of New York, is now famous for developing 36 questions that bring people closer together - most recently brought into the limelight by an iconic New York Times In 1967, Arthur Aron found two profound things: love, and the basis of his life’s work.“When I was in graduate school, in social psychology, the culture back then was to look for a topic that people don’t think can be studied scientifically - and do it,” Arthur Aron told .
But what if falling in love is actually a recipe - where all you need is one partner, three dozen questions, and four uninterrupted minutes of looking deeply into each other’s eyes?
We have a few questions in there that are things like, ‘name some things you’ve noticed about the other person that you like,’ or ‘name some things that you have in common with the other person.’ “Turns out that actually being similar doesn’t matter very much, but believing you’re similar matters a huge amount.