While games were fun to play as a child however, the games adults play are far more manipulative, and involve our most valuable asset as the prize - our hearts. It revolves around the quest for power, which instinctually we search for to alleviate feelings of perceived vulnerability. Glances are exchanged, body language is highly engaged, and the thrill of possibility occupies our minds.
"Playing" with our emotions can also often illicit extreme and addictive emotional reactions, from the highs of "winning" acceptance, to the lows of confusion, anxiety, and rejection. This is the phase where we try to guess, are they interested or not? This game is where it can really start to get ugly, and it also has great potential to backfire.
Not the fun game we played as kids, phone/text/email games are enough to make you lose your mind. It seems virtually impossible these days not to fall into some kind of game-playing in the initial stages of dating, but we must be extremely mindful of taking them too far, because sooner or later, the games must come to an end, and we must be honest to ourselves and each other.
The defining distinction is that both the playable character(s) and possible objects of affection are male.
As with yaoi manga, the major market is assumed to be female.
Does it ever seem like the Dating world is a world completely unto its own, with its own rules, players, and most namely - games?
When venturing into this hard-to-navigate, constantly changing terrain, we seem to enter into an agreement to play these games with each other, at least during the courting phase, and often further into a relationship. This game starts when we first see someone we're attracted to.
Your phone becomes your best friend or worst enemy, depending on what message, if any, it's delivering. Perhaps it's better not to play games in the first place...