Then, matter-of-factly, he said, “Whether I met you on the site or at the Standard, you’d cost me at least 10 grand a month.”The site he was referring to was Seeking Arrangement, an online network that pairs people possessing resources (“sugar daddies” and “sugar mommies”) with those, usually much younger, seeking them (“sugar babies”).I had become a member a few weeks earlier, partly as a social experiment and partly out of genuine desperation.The less she asks for, the more she gets.” If his expression could speak, it would have said, “Don’t expect cash, bitch.”“Sounds fair,” I said.But Hank’s last statement felt somewhat threatening. We were at Megu, a pricey Japanese restaurant in Midtown Manhattan, eating perfectly cooked Kobe beef.My companion, a wealthy finance type, was telling me all about himself and posing questions that suggested he was interested in me.
Throughout dinner Hank blabbed ad nauseam, referring to himself as “a citizen of the world” and concluding his autobiographical sketch with: “You really hit the jackpot, you know.”“I did, didn’t I? ”“Yes, I had one girlfriend,” he said, his attention consumed by pieces of beef sizzling atop a hot rock. I decided to steer the conversation toward the mutually beneficial terms of our would-be coupledom.“How do you see this working? He responded without hesitation: “If I want to go with my girlfriend to St.Since I was still a bit hesitant about how far I’d be willing to take my experiment, I signed up using the pseudonym Annabelle Walker.The site, which launched in 2006, has about 420,000 members, of which roughly one-third are sugar daddies and two-thirds are sugar babies (sugar mommies account for less than one percent).If I had a hefty allowance from a generous benefactor, though, I figured that I could take the leap comfortably. To overcome my reservations about walking the line between dating and prostitution, I told myself that any such concerns were the result of societal conditioning.The idea of wealthy older people supporting struggling younger ones is nothing revolutionary, after all—look what Peggy Guggenheim did for Jackson Pollock or the Tuohys did for N. The idea that mixing money and mating is inherently bad, I reasoned, was a fallacy based on our collective obsession with moralizing sex.(Seeking Arrangement skirts the issue of prostitution by promoting the exchange of “intimacy and companionship” for “gifts.”) I took a deep breath and posted my profile, determined to focus on New York–based single men claiming to be worth at least million. (Throughout this article, I’ve changed the names of the men I dated to protect their privacy.) Initially, he drew my suspicion with the cocky, typo-ridden message he sent me on Seeking Arrangement: “i think i maybe waht you r looking for; read my profile and if you r interested drop me a line.wont be disappointed.” Then I saw his net worth—0 million—and the amount he was willing to spend on a girlfriend: ,000 to ,000 per month.