You know handsome, God-fearing, college-educated, successful career, and earning twice as much as I do. When we got around to talking about careers, I found out that he was a subcontractor working on a project replacing ATMs around the country. We both made decent salaries, but I earned much more than he did annually.
In fact, I spent my first few years out of undergraduate school on the hunt for that guy. Eventually I decided that I needed to do something differently; I couldn't continue to live by my 16-year-old life plan. Since I grew up in a home with a white-collar mother and a blue-collar daddy, Steve's career wasn't a big issue to me. They'd say things such as "can you see yourself marrying someone like that" or "you know finances will be an issue in marriage." Luckily, I never believed that being equally yoked with your husband had anything to do with credentials, only divine order.
That experience lasted 20 years, and it was a constant battle for security.
It never dawned on me that that was the problem, ‘til our kids told him that he was not in my league, and really belonged with the biker crowd.
I've had good relationships with both professional men and "regular guys".I've found blue collar workers to be some of the best men I've ever met.I think you're cutting yourself short to think that they're out of your league. You can't please all the people anyway, so why worry about what anyone thinks.It all depends on what the other person is looking for. I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can make anything work out if both people are willing to try. The biggest difference between us, was that I had sooooo much less stress. I don't have to devote a single thought to the work day, and what will happen tomorrow.Education/job-wise, my last girlfriend and I were about the same. I couldn't understand her way of living and she refused to try to understand mine. Also realize that it can go the other way around, too. I don't think that it matters, as long as the two people get along and don't let it affect things. She on the other hand, would be planning, marking, stressing all night.Nothing I did or said was ever good enough for him, and he couldn't decide whether he wanted a Stepford Wife or a super-high-earner - neither of which I would be.