Also consider how you get along with the person’s friends, because these people will also be part of your life.Johanna said she found it a bit awkward to connect with her boyfriend, Paul’s, friends, even though he was only three years younger. I felt removed from their age and current life stage," she says. A friend once told me that the acceptable age difference was half the older person's age plus seven.She and Paul married anyway, and over time the difference in maturity dissipated. While I don't think it's important to adhere to an arbitrary formula when considering age in a potential relationship (interestingly, when I met Kevin our age difference was exactly this ratio), I think it can be a good rule of thumb to help you consider if your relationship is appropriate.(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time.The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.
How will you address potential challenges, such as being on different biological timetables, one of you ending up a caretaker, the timing of children, or dealing with gaps in maturity?Before I began dating Kevin, a woman I worked with in children's ministry frequently asked me about him, seeing potential from the start. " "Ah," she said lightly, waving her hand, "My husband's four years older, but he acts younger.Age is just a number." As Kevin and I broached some tough topics in conversation (at the advice of wise counsel), something occurred to me."God brought us together, and once we knew that, the other factors didn't really even matter. The couple still serves together in ministry and has two teenage sons.When Kevin learned I was eight years older than him — by seeing pictures of my 30th birthday party on Facebook — first he didn’t believe it (bless him!Even some 30-something guys I knew didn't seem ready.