I am not implying that a man has to be a prude, but he is to be a protector.If a man is addicted to pornography, he is already committing adultery/fornication in his heart, even before you tie the knot.He is already showing that he is unwilling to “forsake all others,” and that he is not living a pure lifestyle.Paul writes in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong [defraud] his brother in this manner, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things…” God’s will is for your sanctification, which includes purity. If it is not, then he is a defrauder, who loves himself more than you or God. How does your date cope when things do not go as planned?It's integral to the way they approach life and make decisions.
And I'm not the only woman who has found this to be true. On a mission to answer this question, and many others, I talked informally with a group of men in New York City, and then sat down with the guys from Bel Air Presbyterian to chat about the pursuit of love, about Christian dating, and about why on earth they don't want to date women who go to their church.If you are dating a man who expects you to be everything to him and always make him happy, you both are in for a harsh awakening after the honeymoon ends.You are both sinners and you will sin against each other.They all attend Bel Air Presbyterian Church, and range in age from 28 to 40 years old.In addition, they are all currently single, and their words formed a striking correlation with what I heard from the single, Christian men in New York City: They're all interested in finding someone to spend their lives with, but not particularly keen on finding her at church.And if he is not ready to be a husband, dating him could only have a sorrowful outcome.